Hey Randy,
What if instead of avoiding her completely... you just put your efforts into making every interaction whith her positive and light.

Remove the pressure... not your presence.

It does seem that you ask her to go out on a "date" quite often and she says no... not yet alot. And it seems that you also continually ask her for clarification of where you stand with her... again she has no answer... or at least not the answer you want to hear.

IMHO your reminding her that you will not wait forever is a little like a threat and makes it seem that you have big expectations attached to your efforts. I don't deny your frustration... I'm right there with you!!

I think anybody in a situation where they are feeling confusion will only stay in their state of inertia when presented with any kind of percieved pressure to take a stand and decide.

I don't mean to beat up on you... just offering my 2 cents.

U [Smile]