My W also has "friends" that she talks to and says that it helps OR not hurts it (sound similar). She also says if she wasn't trying she would have left (sound familiar). You have pushed it pretty far with no negative results so that is great. I don't have a clue what else you could possibly do to help your R. I posted the idea of pushing things a little about a week ago as a 180 from the conservative approach you were taking. It sounds like you tried it and at least you know better where you stand and didn't move backwards. That has got to reduce the anxiety a little bit. We are living in parallel worlds right now as far as our W stalling at taking that next step. If I come up with any ideas I will post again.
