You are great DBer with incredible patience. Way to let her initiate the R talk. You are dedicated to the task so if your patience holds out you will reap the reward. It sounds like she is doing an "as if" routine of her own to help her come back to the R. I think you said the right thing about not waiting forever. That is a fair statement. She sounds so confused and will just have to figure it out in her own time. For your sake I wish she would become enlightened soon. You are doing things darn near perfect. You seem to be bumping right up against the "line" but not crossing it. For what it is worth, her comment about "could be a week, could be a year" means closer to a week than a year. What is she afraid of? I don't think she even knows. Best of luck Randy, you deserve it. Have a great weekend.
