T Thanks for the reply,maybe I need to do something different.Things are so much better but we still can't have OR talks,I can calm them down now and end them without a problem.I can't figure why she won't go on a date.We go shopping and out to eat with the kids and we can go to lunch during the day.She won't do anything physical like hugging.I did e-mail her and told her that if she did want to come back I didn't care if she kept her apt.until she felt comfortable and that she could sleep in a different bed for awhile,nothing would happen until she was ready.Tonight I have to set up the new above ground pool she bought for my backyard and she mentioned yesterday that she would like to quit work but "we" couldn't afford it."We" are D so if she isn't coming back why does she keep doing these weird things?,I guess only she knows.
