Quote: It's just a suggestion but if I were you I would not go to those family functions of the in-laws for a while.
Alright. Alright! I get it! Jeez. Nothing like a straight index finger poking me hard in the middle of the chest.
Quote: Why aggravate your wife?
No reason to. I just realized, with your help, that I am only helping to strengthen her resolve to D me. NOT what I hope to achieve.
Quote: Instead show respect for her feelings by not going for a while.
I am able to do that for her and for me.
Quote: Isn't it enough that you work for MIL?
In my own selfish thinking, I didn't give that angle much weight. Looking at it from her vantage point now, THAT is quite possibly her thinking on the subject.
Quote: Stop trying to make her see how well you fit in and are loved.
I wasn't trying to consciously make her see anything. But consciously or subconsciously, the net effect on her is that same.
Quote: Just do this for a while.
I will stop doing MORE OF THE SAME! Doing what I've been doing has not resulted in desirable results. Time for a new plan.
Quote: On the subject of having seen the kids for the last 20 days in a row.....I told you to set a schedule a long time ago and stick to it. Now this is going to be like starting all over for you AND the children.
Will absolutely feel like starting over. But, I really have NO choice at this point. MY WAY is simply ineffective. I will be moving into my place towards the end of next week. THAT will be my impetus for GAL. Hurray!
Quote: Also, the W should have been getting her feet wet all the way up to her friggin neck as to how it is when you're a single mom.
Yes, if I had more backbone, she would have. But that is my fault. I can't remedy the past, but I can set us off in a new direction for the future. Feeling the "single momhood" feeling is FAST approachin'! I can help her to see what she wants to achieve in as loving but firm manner. And again I read my verse:
Quote: God grant me the courage NOT to give up on what I think is right even though I think it is hopeless. Amen.
Quote: I see you have a schedule now, though.
Stick to it and start GALing.
My schedule will be set in stone, only to be upset by an emergency with my children. My GALing goes into full force in less than two weeks.
My four step process to get back into living MY life. STEP 1: move STEP:2: get settled STEP 3: take care of my children next weekend STEP 4: relax and GAL
My GALing goes into full force in less than two weeks.