Need Help Staying on my Feet, pt. 3

[Still_Standing]

Maybe a good rule of thumb for you for the next couple months or so would be
if you think something about ANYTHING pertaining to your wife...KEEP IT TO YOURSELF.

Not MAYBE. Definitely! In other words you are telling me to SHUT UP ALREADY! You have previously told me that I talk TOO MUCH! That fact has truly been becoming crystal clear to me. I am focused now to stop that trend of diarrhea of the mouth. Yeck I am so steeped in my own sh*t that I can't see anything about me, her and us correctly and I am drowning in my "good intentions" gone bad b/c I still am trying to control what I cannot possbibly control! Heck, I can't even control myself to think straight or behave propery in my sitch.

I often feel like my situation is quicksand; the more I struggle to control everything, the more I panic and slowly sink to the inevitable (or so it seems) demise of my DB efforts.

You need to stop trying to figure out your wife's problems and instead figure out YOURS. Otherwise, you will not win this fight.

That's just the way it is.

Dig deeper.

INTO YOUR OWN CRAP.

I KNOW! I have a burning desire to win THIS fight! I want my W, my M, and my family back intact. Unfortunately, I am struggling to turn over everything in my life to HIM. Honestly, I am really unclear on HOW to do so. This much I believe, a quick and easy way does NOT exist, despite my longing for one. As the saying goes though, if you don't know where you are going, ANY road will get you there. Grrrr. I am lost!! and am only getting myself more lost each day.

We had a MC who told me that it is much easier to play in someone else mess b/c it is a rest from looking at and straightening up my own mess. THAT really rang true with me. I, like most people I imagine, can see the speck in my brother's(wife's) eye even though I pay no attention to the plank in my own.

As the Bible says in John 8:7, when the town was wanting to stone a woman for adultery, and continued confronting Jesus, the story followed: When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."