Quote: After reading your thread and remarks that MLC is revisiting unresolved past issue and having a "troubled" childhood. THAT is my W exactly!!!
I am certain that I never said that ALL MLC's are caused by childhood issues. Only that MINE was inluenced by my parents divorce and the fact that I never learned HOW to be married. I also believe that mine had to do with the fact I completely quit taking care of myself once I had kids. I no longer tried to better myself such as by going back to college and getting a career. When the kids were both in school, I was lost. THAT had much to do with my MLC. I just don't want you to think it is written in stone that MLC is always about one's childhood. I do not necessarily believe that, but also think it is a matter of what one did(or didn't do) in their early adult life. There are just too many variables in ones life for anyone to try to nail the cause down to just one thing.
Quote: I have told my W, "You have emotional scars from your childhood and your parents. Do you want to perpetuate that cycle of neglect and emotional abandonment? I told her you are 31 years old and still impacted by the neglect from your parents."
WHEN did you tell her this? IMO, that was a bad move. YOu have once again exalted yourself above her and you think you know more than she does.
Sometimes wisdom means you keep your mouth shut.
If her parents divorce has impacted her current behavior then that is something she was have to walk out on her on.
I'm glad you have refired but your statement to her above implies you still need to concentrate more on your own issues than on hers.
