I am not going to go back and re-read your thread(s) (already did that once today for someone) but I don't think you have ever really posted much to be ashamed of or that would set you back months if your W read it. I think you come off as a pretty nice guy, who surely loves his W but that made a terrible mistake, one he recognizes and is working to repair the damage it caused.
I don't think anyone should really recommend that their spouse read the things they post here, but now that you did in a way, I don't think it would be as bad as some of the threads here. Who knows, maybe since she IS the LBS in this case, she could even get help.
Amy, I do agree with you that in that respect, it WAS self-serving because in a way HH, you were not only trying to prove that you're really trying, but you were also trying to get her to get help here, consciously or unconsciously. I can't say I blame you on either count. You thought you were doing the right thing.
I hope it works out for you, and HH's W, if you are reading this, I think you have a good man here, who if given the second chance at marital life, would be a rock in your life, one that truly understands the gift of marriage and how to keep giving that gift for eternity.
