Quote: W- I have forgiven you for having an A. Me- No you haven't. W- Why do you say that? Me- Because you keep bringing it up and lashing out. wife ponders a minute. W- You're right, I haven't forgiven you. I'm still hurting and really pissed off. Me- I know. I am sorry for having hurt you so deeply and so terribly. I hope that soon you'll truly be able to offer your forgiveness.
Ok, so one month ago (when you said this happened) she was able to express her anger and pain verbally, now she is acting on those feelings. The point is that she still has strong feelings, although negative, that are motivating her. They are still feelings primarily about YOU and what YOU did, not really about her and when she REALLY wants. Like most WAS & some LBS's I think she really just wants the pain to go away, and that means you right now. It won't always be that way.
