Quote: Hopeful_Husband, been reading your posts and we can change our names, your wife acts just like mine, new love, exciting, fresh, in love, its all b/s, it will get old. but they have to figure it out on there own, i try to see my children as much as i can, but what kills me is that her OM probably see's them more than i do.
Me too. Except for the part about OM seeing my children more than I do. I am fortunate to see them LOTS. My W already introduced our D5 to OM and then had OM over for dinner. My D told me about the dinner and then put mommy on the phone to tell me who OM is. My W tells me he is a friend.
Later on, my W tells me that our D is pissed at her because she is dating OM. I told my W, NO, she is pissed at you b/c you flat out lied to her (told her OM is a friend). I also told my W that her bevavior sucks, with regard to our children. I told her that she is selfish, self-centered and self-absorbed and she absolutely does NOT put our childrens' needs and wellbeing ahead her own, especially with regard to chasing a man. She did not like that but I told her change your behavior and it won't be true. She and I had agreed months ago that introducing our children to people we are dating was inappropriate until we figured out where if the relationship looked like it was going to be long term. My W made that determination after 6 weeks and then invited OM over for dinner with my D present at 8 weeks. At this point, my wife said "maybe" I should hold off on having OM and our D5 together for a while. I told her no, not maybe, definitely. I told her, get the the honeymoon, new, butterflies, "I don't even really have any idea who you are (& vice versa) stage and THEN come and talk to ME about putting our children in your mix.
My W tells me that she didn't think she did anything wrong. I told her that she wouldn't be defensive if she was 100% convinced that she did the right thing for our D. She responded that she may have rushed the introduction. I told her not maybe, definitely. I asked her, so when I start dating someone you would be OK with me introducing that woman to our children. She answered yes. I called her a liar. She did not protest. She knows I am right. She'll be beside herself when I get to the point of dating someone.
Quote: nothing you can do, just work on your self and your children, my prayer will go out to you, everyone here knows how you feel. be strong for your self and your children, and don't let her step on you anymore, i think it make them feel better, i just started say NO to her, i won't be her punching bag anymore, if she has to, or needs to complain and bitch, i don't want to her it anymore. tell it to the OM.
I am with you, brother. My children are my focus and my bright light in the stormy marital seas of my life. They have kept my head on straight and on doing what is right.
Quote: i'll also stay open to reconciliation as long as I can.
Me too.
Quote: its in god's hands. just be good to yourself and i wish you luck and happiness
Thank you, I need to have the kindred spirits I have found her in DB.
