D5 has a dance recital and you need the details. Call the school she dances for.
Your wife has nothing that you need but YOU need to stop talking to her about anything other than picking up the kids. I really wish you would stop letting her walk all over you where they are concerned. As I told another poster last night, Dads are NOT free babysitters.
You are bending over backwards to pacify her every freakin whim and it is about time you said "ENOUGH!". I don't care about the history. This is now a matter of self-respect, which you claim to have but your actions suggest otherwise.
Get your guilt and your groveling under your feet.
Grow a spine and show it to her.
Do you honestly think that just because you had a brief affair, her actions in the time since finding out are justified? Hell no, they are not! You are remorseful, you have at least made an attempt to grow beyond the mistakes you made and also in spite of them. SHE has done nothing and you know what? EXACTLY HALF of the burden for repairing and overcoming lies on HER shoulders.
Stop talking to her unless it has to do with the kids.
Get a life.
Get moved.
Believe me, once you make yourself scarce she'll take notice.
DO IT TODAY.
LET HER GO.
IT'S THE ONLY WAY YOU HAVE A CHANCE OF GETTING HER BACK.
