6/17/06- I left my W a msg about a closing accout statement that she left out for me. The account had only my name listed on the statement and had deposits going into it from the checking account. I left my W a msg to that effect, telling her that I didn't think transferring $$$ into a checking account in my name only was probably not what she intended to do. She calls me back berating me and telling me that she didn't appreciate my snooping into her accounts etc., calling me all kinds of choice names. I told her that I was only trying to do the right thing by leaving the msg I did and that I didn't deserve her treatment. She wouldn't let up and I let my hurt get the better of me and reacted abruptly rather than responding in a real feeling way. Finally, we figured out that I did open the savings account with the intention of putting her name on it and she did go down to the bank to effect the change, but her name was added to the signature card, but not added to system to read on the statement properly. She finally agreed that my leaving a msg was a good thing to do and I was only alerting her to what looked like an error on her part. She agreed and couldn't get off the phone fast enough. Ahhh, my marriage.
6/18/06- My W called me and acted "as if." I immediately owned up to my part in the previous day's converstion, apologizing for reacting poorly to her treatment and telling her there were several better ways for me to handle the sitch. She came right back and told me she was sorry for coming at me like that. She then told me that she was going to her father's house for Father's Day and that I was absolutely invited to attend and she would take our children home from there. I agreed. This conversation was a nice conversation.
I then saw her at her father's house and the gathering was nice as well. She took our S home and I took our D5 back a little later. Another nice time, but I am DB/DRing and praying to keep my head on straight and my emotions in check b/c she seems to be on FF with her relationship with OM. I suppose I shouldn't worry about it too much. Other than me, her longest relationship is 1 year, THE LONGEST! I trust that she will hold true to her record in past relationships. This one will start out fast and then she'll get bored b/c it will get out the honeymoon, new phase fast and then she'll be sick of it. Patience, is what I keep telling myself.
