Hi Randy, I found since my H has returned home 10months we have never had a R talk. What I find is happening we are working on the foundation of our new relationship. I have been setting boundries as to what I expect from him. Telling him what I need. I have found since he has come home he initially was really attentive to me and I thought I had died and gone to heaven. He is starting to slip back into his old selfish, couch potato way, He has started to be miserable several days at a time. Before I would have excepted it and just been unhappy. Now I deal with it let him know what is exceptable and what isnt. I dont think you have to worry about or talks you have to concentrate on what you want out of this relationship. I told My H that I need him to be my boyfriend, if he doesnt want the job someone else will. I have told him exactly what I need. I really mean these things when I tell him. I have been through alot have gotten stronger and as Michele says I know now what I need to be happy and I wont settle for anything else. You will know when to set a boundry you will feel upset about something and let her know. Then sit back and wait to see if she complies. Mine always did. It is a long hard journey I thought it was over when he came home. It just begun. I am hoping for something wonderful at the end. So far he hasnt let me down. I hope this answers your question. Loretta
