GH, I love hearing what you have to say about my sitch, actions and thoughts. You are my online conscience.
Quote: HH, maybe I am not really thinking right tonight, but this struck me as odd...
Quote: I have come back to my truth that I need to live my life from my heart and NOT from my head. Living my life from thoughts and not from feelings or at least feelings AND thoughts gets me in huge messes.
My head and wayward thoughts get me in messes.
Quote: I think you have it backwards. You should NOT live your life based on your feelings because they can and will change moment by moment, day by day. Now, your intuition is another thing altogether.
For me, my thoughts race and change but my feelings tend to be more stable and correct. My thoughts are often all over the board and I often act poorly because of my thoughts. Acting from my heart has been safer for me.
Quote: I think you need to try as best you can to life your life by what you know is right according to goals you set and morals you have. I think that at times, BOTH our hearts AND our heads betray our path and can lead us astray of where we want to go. I know for me that is certainly true. Too much thinking gets me confused and too much feeling gets me, well, feeling too much and too close to making rash, heat of the moment decisions. Maybe the best way to think about it is to try to get in touch with the heart when a whole lot of thinking is going on, and the head when there's too much emoting..
You and I have very similar thoughts/feelings, but I trust my heart much more than my head, although ideally both would be working in concert for the best behavior on my part.
Quote: I think a system of internal checks and balances is what we all need to get through the tough times of these sitches, but for the most part, if I had to pick the more evil of the two, I would say my heart/emotions are worse in terms of getting me in trouble.
The opposite is true for me. Usually it's my head and thoughts that betray me and rationalize me right into poor decisions/actions.
Quote: Oh, BTW, I think it's perfectly normal to be upset at W for casting your agreement aside. I also think you have the right to talk to her about it. No matter what, you WILL be co-parents of these kids and will probably be MUCH better at that if you both can come up with a game plan and stick to it. Just make sure you don't approach it sorta "holier than thou".
I am so happy that my guide sees this portion of my sitch like I do. I am really working to approach my W from concern and NOT "holier than thou." Thanks, brother.
