Am I Creating a SSM Part V

[heatherg]

I'm like this too...I see little things like this, and gain some hope. What a couple of suckers we are.


Roger that Hairdog. Maybe one of these days we won't be disappointed?

Just out of curiosity...do you normally go to bed without acknowledging your H?

It has not been uncommon at all these past few years, given the state of our M. Prior to that, no, neither of us would go to bed without saying goodnight. In fact, H always stays up later than me, so prior to my A he would 'tuck me in' at night.

My H has done that a few times to me...and well, I found that to be quite rude. It was as if he simply dismissed me....I viewed it as though he was acting like I wasn't even there. Honestly, it really offended me. I felt totally ignored when he'd do that.

Well, he'd feel exactly as I'd intended then Like I said, it's just been the state of things these past couple of years. To say these years have been difficult on us both has got to be the understatement of the year.

Anyway...it's very possible (and I'm just taking a stab here) that you might have gotten that kiss because you showed some consideration to him as well. Something as simple as saying goodnight, and acknowledging someone can go a long way.

Agreed. I know I can do better and should do better than to go to bed without saying goodnight (among other things). When you get to the state my M is in, any gesture can feel like putting yourself out there and when you perceive getting so little in return, it becomes easier just not to do the gesture. It's a very sad state and I know there are things I can do to change the R for the better. I just need to be careful because when I do strategically planned things and try to 'monitor results'...I get really frustrated with the depth of the results. The kiss on the forehead was nice, but if I focus on it, it will only take me so far and my expectations get the better of me because monitoring results and trying different things actually means *trying* to get those reactions from H and frustration sets in faster than you can blink your eye. Even getting dance lessons for a x-mas gift last year was bitter sweet because everyone thought it was sooo wonderful, and so did I don't get me wrong, but the irony of it left me feeling like crap. So yeah, we'll be able to dance, dance the night away.....then we can go to our separate bedrooms, kwim? It is too heartwrenching to think about, so I just don't anymore.

What I was asking was that I had heard from some people that it was a tear-jerker, but I just wanted to make sure before I returned it without watching it.

My opinion is 'do not watch it'. Return it. Save it for another day Chrome.