I'm going to stay out of the fray between you and Cobra, but I wanted to ask a couple questions.
First, are you sleeping in your marriage bed since H is out of town? (I sure hope so).
Second, he's been out of town for a month? Is this business related? Ever wonder what he does when he's gone? Do you have civil phone conversations with him?

I'm thinking like Nopkins here, so bear with me for a second. What would happen if you found out that he was having an A? Would it "even the score" or would it end the M? I'm sorry to go down this road, but when I read that he'd been out of town for a month, my mind just took off.

Hope you get a chance to answer some of the questions. Consider me one of the guys that drops in with a "general sense of caring."

Hairdog.