Another year, huh? Not so long, but a long time to suffer your H's disrespect. Setting and enforcing your boundaries should help with that. I just hope your H wakes up over the next year!!!
We're doing fine. XH and I have decided not to seek counseling together, although we both see the same IC. He has been diagnosed with OCPD and is getting treated for that. After my first session, it became clear to me that I need to move on from my R with XH and claim my life. One of the products of OCPD is a need to control and my XH exhibited such passive control (I allowed it!) over my life that I can't see myself going back there and ever being happy. The C said we are co-dependent and toxic and I agree. She pointed out that the emotions and bonds between us have been strong, but not romantic/partner love. I thought of this BB as we talked.. she referred to us playing out our childhoods in our R. So that's it. We're slowly moving apart and on. No bad feelings really, just regret that we couldnt make it work for the kids. The kids are doing fine though and I'm MUCH more happy and relaxed. If I had known that they would be OK and that I could feel this free, strong and healthy, I wouldnt have waited so long to stop the madness. Thanks for asking!
