What your H is refusing to understand is that this isn't just up to YOU to fix.
He has to take responsibility for his part in the problems that exist/ed in your M too (prior to the A and after)...and work on fixing those things. What he's doing though is expecting you to do some magical thing that will somehow suddenly fix everything in his eyes....yet he refuses to give you that one kernal of inisght as to what that one thing might be.
Yes...you had an A, take responsibility for that (I know you have), show your remorse, and do what you can now to fix that...I know you are trying. BUT if he doesn't take responsibility for his contributions to the state of the problems....and work on those things....you two will continue the dance you are in now.
At some point YOU can only do so much my friend.
His lying and and double standards don't cut it either. I don't care if he feels you have to earn back his trust or not....HE isn't allowed to lie etc. either.
I hate to say it but at what point do you cut bait?
