You are focusing on the trees. Look at the forest. The more you post the more I believe that you and your H are both done with each other. Isn't there a way that you guys can respectfully part? I am a big believer in marriage but I am not a big believer in staying in a soul sucking situation and isn't that what this is? You go to karate - he's so unsure of the marriage that he's ticked and doesn't "trust you" and you, the designated untrustworthy one was just going to karate. He, the designated trustworthy one DOES go out on at least two occasions and lies or evades about it. You don't sleep in the same bed. You don't parent together. What part of this R isn't demeaning, soul sucking and detrimental to you both?
