Chrome, FWIW, about 5 years ago Mrs GGB said pretty much that she was through with being intimate and that I'd have to get used to it. I then hung in limbo for maybe 3 years with the occasional nookie crumb thrown to me (got the last two kids from those crumbs) when she was feeling enough in the mood (a half dozen times a year or so). It was living Hell. Things, while not perfect, are much much better now; we still are going through droughts that last a few weeks now and again (seems like more than not), but at least we can talk about it and doing so will usually getus back on track at least for a few days.
Anyway, I'm only saying this to show that it is possible to pull yourselves back from the edge of the precipice. If I can do it, I know you can too. The key, at least Ive found it to be so, is intimate communication. I think in light of your recent posts, you are also finding that, although perhaps not recognizing it yet. The communication I am talking about is nothing held back, but still presented in a loving way (this is not the forum for attacks on your mate's character or criticisms of her, rather a way to let out your thoughts and feelings). As simple as it sounds, both MrsGGB and I have found it to be perhaps the most difficult thing we've tried to do. Chromedome, if you haven't already done it, you ought to take MrsChrome and yourself to a WWME weekend. I know you aren't big on the religious side, so ignore that part of it. The point is they do give you some tools that will help with intimate communications. The dialog process (which is what they call it) does feel a little stilted and corny, but it does seem to work. Basically, they give you a discussion topic that generally presents a situation and asks you how it makes you feel, then you write a 10 minute love letter to each other describing those feelings, then you exchange letters, and then discuss the feelings, working back and forth until your partner has a good feel for what you were feeling. Like I said, it looks and feels a bit corny, but it does work.
Now if I could just get MrsGGB back to doing the dialogs. They made her feel uncomfortable; she's still very protective of her inner thoughts and feelings.
