He may sleep elsewhere, in which case I've won the battle of my self respect, but possibly lost the war. H told me last time that if I pushed the issue, he would never sleep in the same bed as me again, period.
Here's my thought on this subject.
If he cannot tell you what you BOTH can do to make him comfortable with the idea of sharing the bed and he cannot give you a timeframe for getting these things accomplished, explain how this negative outcome differs from your current sitch. If you do nothing, the status quo will most likely extend longer than you are willing to wait so for all practical purposes there is no downside to the effort as the only real negative effect is what you are currently living with (I'm assuming physical safety is not in question).
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
