I think when we are too critical of ourselves, we assume that everyone else is just as critical of us. We create pressure on ourselves, but perceive it as coming from others.
Interesting, but not what I do. What OP think of me is pretty irrelevant to me. The pressure I put on myself far outweighs what anyone else would think of doing, or I would allow for that matter.
He says I hated him for years... He was just in some other plane, always. I cant remember seeing you saying anything positive or saying anything that gives a hint that you have any type of respect for your H. This is curious to me, because I dont think its a honest or accurate protrayal because of some other things I see you doing.
Oh, and he already tried to kick me out once. I came back Here it is. your solutions and what you need to do all wrapped up in this one sentance. I remember seeing this way back when you talked about returning home and thinking, its that easy, why doesnt she see it.
I won't do what it will take.....the things that H is claiming is proof of my lack of commitment is crap Your translating me again. Thats not what I said. not one of the thing you mentioned that you are not willing to do, was suggested by me. Or Mrs. Nops, or Cobra, or Stig, or anyone else. You are making this more then I said. Why are you doing that, with me, again?
Heather. here is my opinion on the bed. go sleep in it. if he asks you what you are doing. tell him. we are married I am sleeping with my H. IF you think I am still or have been unfaithful, then D me or tell me you want a seperation.
I dont think he will get physical again. If I am wrong, just flatly say, DO not put your hands on me in anger. If he does, go file for D the next day. Dont threaten, just do it.
I think if you know that you deserve to sleep in your bed, he will agree with you. It will salve him on some level that you know you have the right to do so. That is my feeling on your H. I see the convos you have related to us, and that is what his manspeak says to me.
