Heather. I don't usually respond to your posts because I see your H as so rigid and righteous in his own mind. I have been reading your thread for some time
I am glad you had the advice from Cobra and saw a side of your H and his computer activities. You know he has a SD but not with you that includes affection and much caring like an EC.
No advice fro me because I think you already have better advice. Just wanted to show my support for you in a small way.