Am I Creating a SSM Part V

[koshka]

Heather,

He can't fathom why *he* should have to change because *I* cheated. Again, I understand.

You do? Could you explain it to me, because I don't understand. My XW cheated, really cheated, not some kiss she fessed up to me about, and I did fathom why I had to change. I was part of the M that fell subject to an A, and I wanted to rebuild it.

I see a lot of theories and explanations and advice on your threads lately, from me and from others, but I have a hunch the best bet for your M right now is "Keeping a beginner's mind." Explanations about what worked/didn't work and why/why not don't seem to have gotten you much closer to what you want, from what I read.

Hugs and prayers,

Joe