Hey man, keep it up. Your doing good. Go with the flow, keep telling yourself NO PRESSURE, NO DRAMA, treat her good. Force the changes in yourself. You are the watcher of your actions and whats unfolding around you. This is a time where we men must watch the details, the looks, the actions, the silence, the gestures the subliminal language that speaks LOUDER then words. We can't sit on the couch and watch video's and flick the channels, no this is much different now. I've passed through the door of fear and dependency. I have finally detached and released my XW. I thought I would never say that but I have. It doesn't mean I don't still love her, actually my feelings haven't changed for her. But, it's time to stop beating myself up and acting like a baby. It's time to move forward and live my life. Randy, don't lose this, if you want your wife back then you must be mentally prepared for everything. Stay sharp and focus and think of every move you are going to make. Get her back, you know there really isn't anyone to compare with your wife. I know that now!!! I really FUCKED up....I regret loosing her and don't you!!!! Just remember this my friend, you want her to chose and committe to you on her own. That's how it will work !!!! You must let go of control over her decisions and thoughts.this will make you feel more confident, stronger and worth every penny......either way Randy, you are a good guy...and you will come out of this in one piece and a better person...one last thing, don't ever take anything for granted.......see you....
