P.S. You asked about a couple of other things. We don't very often go out alone, he and I, and that's a mistake. We are so wrapped up in the kids. That's something we are working on, alone time, and putting MARRIAGE ahead of FAMILY, which I believe is the only way to a happy family.
I have not missed work one bit! I enjoyed what I did, for 15 whole years, and had lots of friends. But I have so much more time for my 4 year old, who is immensely fascinating to me, and for my 9 year old too. It really IS a blessing to be able to be home. And you're right: it's really significant when the H has a high-powered, time-consuming career. I figure I've got the rest of my life to work, if I choose (or unless something unforeseen happens).
