CARL, its impossible to know WHAT they are thinking, and you go crazy trying to figure it out. As for forgivness being a lengthy process, I believe it is. theres a great book by charles stanley called the gift of forgiveness, it talks about the process you need to go thru. But I did read a quote somewhere that said " slow forgiveness is as good as no forgiveness". so there you go.
I'm not dating, just socializing. Its been good for me, helped me get over my rejection anxiety knowing there are other women who would love to date me. One is a complete knockout.
The pursuit thing can be very very subtle. W has shown some signs of pursuit, ive been distancing for 3 months. My sit. is different though unlike anyones on this board. I'm trying to get forgiveness from W, she seems uncapable of it, so shes mad and has done alot of very bad things, now I am the one who has to be able to forgive her if we can ever resolve this huge mess. JUly 9th will mark one year for me since the crap hit the fan. IVe learned so much, its been sheer hell and I hope the worst is behind me.
W did come by to see D last night and I was there, first time Ive seen her in 3 months. she looked good to me, and we have joint counseling coming up soon. she was nice,sad. it was tense and strange, but time apart is a good thing I think. a necessity
things that have helped me through this are: freinds and family, counselors, books, church, God.
All you can do is try to improve yourself, eat, workout, buy new clothes, look good,feel good, get rid of bad habits and try to improve any problems in your attitude, like anger, self pity, etc....
lookat all the good things you have, and just be cool!!!!!!!
