Just checking in. I have quit my job and am home full time. What an adjustment, what a loss, and what a RELEASE--all at the same time. For the first time since we bought the house, I've seen inside of it by day! And I'm playing with Play-Doh and watching cartoons. It's not that I feel I neglected my kids by working part-time since they were born (we had to have 2 incomes at that time), it's just that a career consumes SO MUCH of a person. I had to FORCE myself to reprioritize.
I wish my h would do the same, but I am treading very very delicately here, trying not to be perceived as making demands. He's a jobaholic. And great, people should be passionate about something--homemaking is really not for men, at least for most of them. So ok, he has this job he loves and is very good at. But it means working many evenings till after the kids are in bed and weekend travel. I am all the time hanging up the phone with him to tell two disappointed children, Daddy won't be home tonight till late but he will see you first thing in the morning...
But I understand that this is his big break, so I am trying to be quiet. (Or at least not get consumed by a slow-brewing resentment.) That's another reason I quit my job: too many conflicts with his. I gave it up willingly, because I had plenty to come home to, but also to get out of the way of his career. (Mine was with an important company and was quite demanding itself.)
How are you? It seems you are busy about the business of rebuilding, and that is as it should be. I'm taking no news to mean good news. We're all here when you are; meanwhile, enjoy the remakings of your marriage!
Am so happy for you. I understand that every moment might not be a breeze and there are adjustments to make, but considering the alternative....
