Quote: So, why do you suppose your H works so much. Make a list of possibilities and ask non-accusatory questions like, "when you work xyz how does it make you feel, what drives you?
He works because it's who he is. He enjoys writing himself his paycheck at the end of the week...it makes him feel good to know he's providing for his family. He enjoys being voted "the best of" in the town he runs his business out of. He started his company from nothing and it now provides for his family and offers employement to 11 others.
Quote: You say he had an "EA" of some sorts. Did he say what he got from the EA? Lots of men get different things from EA/A's. I could only guess what your H got from his.
Not from him...he had a hard time even admitting it was an affair...wouldn't even call it an inappropriate relationship...now he just calls it BS. I know he used words like "they had a connection" and that he could "be himself with her" etc. It's probably typical but a lot of the time I find myself feeling like maybe they were meant to be together and not us.
