please see my thread under this topic titled "he is changing his mind" h told me last night after his first counseling session, that he loves OW not me. He never knew what love really was until her. she is a 10 and I am only around a 6. says he does realize how much I love him and how much this hurts me but does he stay for the sake of the kids and our 25 years together and be sad or does he go and make us sad? he says it is a feeling he has for her and he cannot make it go away. I gave him articles from internet explaining the theory of withdrawal from the OW and that the relationship is not based in reality only fun and fantasy but he is not open to this, believes he is the exception and this is the real deal. He is using HOnesty to hurt me so I will make him leave. He has said in as many ways as he can that she is just better for him than I am and that he has play acted for the last 25 years.He has moved back into my home and caused more financial burden by purchase of a new truck for son and a satelite dish for home. also added back on to car insurance. do i have him leave or wait for him to leave or tell him i want 6 months of counseling and effort put into being a couple and family and if after 6 months he still feels the same i will accept his decision. is this wrong, dont i deserve some effort. he says i have done nothing wrong, nothing to fix, it is just my personality, hers is better for him. says they were friends for a couple of years before A. they talked about everything, leaving me in the dark. please help.
