Dear Woman who is LOVED by her husband. Get in the moment and stay there. Don't look for the crumbs of bitterness.
Dancing is something that has always been special for me. We finally went to dance a couple of weeks ago and you could tell my natural dancer of an H was out of practice. This weekend someone was talking about dancing and H said "Lily and I like to dance".
Sometimes I wonder if my H thinks I'd worry the details of the A the way he seems to regard the cel bill and me. We're actually getting a # change on the cel phone (my mother's day gift). I don't want to see the thing but didn't ask why he didn't buy a new one. He had mentioned that we would receive a credit toward the purchase of a new phone next year. Let it go. S gets a cel phone. One of those buy one get one free. He and H will have that call between thingie. I'm hoping that S will talk his cel up enough that H will want to match him and have the Affair cel deactivated rather than the new spare one.
Matilda. Honest to God. When he says ILY just accept it.
My H had a brief affair years ago. Probably close to 27 years back in the past. I don't care anything about that one (it's probably that rusty ole thing hanging on my H's back next to that shiney new can he's committed to carry LOL). He said it was a case of following his erection. I can remember a time of anger back then but it's not worth a roller coaster ticket to try to remember it. I don't think my H stopped loving me then. Maybe that little secret was the core of where he layered his anger when he did start stuffing it years later.
Anyway, as Russell Banks says: "Change occurs only at the edges and then works its way in to the center." Let your change continue toward your center . The bitterness you fail to toss aside prevents you from tasting the sweetness in the middle.
