OOPS forgot I wanted to comment on something else Montana.... I too admire Matilda for comfronting the OW. I think that she did the right thing for her and I think she is a strong and teriffic lady!! I too have felt the desire to confront the OW. We have been to the club where my H met her (and where she hangs out)3 times while we were on vacation. I saw a picture of her so I knew what to look for. It did help that she was just a plain,ordinary woman who was only 5 years yonger than me. I had imagined all kinds of things that I would say to her. However,it wasn't in the cards for us to meet face to face. I did call her once last year but she wouldn't talk to me. She deleted my emails or forwarded them to my H (not knowing that I had already told him about emailing her). After my H broke off all contact with her,she changed her email address but I still have her home address,work address and all her phone numbers. Anyway, I have thought about it and I really believe that God knows what is best for me and He must know that meeting her face to face is not what I really need (at least not right now). I can accept that. I feel that as many times as we were in the town where she lives and as often as we were at her "hangout",we would have run into her had it been "meant to be". I still think every now and then about getting in touch with her but that feeling is fading away as time goes by. She just isn't important and she doesn't have the powere to hurt me and I refuse to allow the thought of her spoil my happiness anymore!!
