HI! I realize that there are going to things that "trigger" rememberances of the A. There was a time when movies,books,articles,etc.,etc. would trigger unwanted memories. Those things don't bother me much at all anymore. Now that I am not as sensitive I find some of the articles interesting. The "triggers" are another thing that get better with time. Last year I helped my H pack for his trip and I put him a love note in his bag for everyday he was going to be gone. He called me the first night and read the note while talking to me. Then he called me several times before I left for my trip. I have already started getting cards and things ready to pack this year. He told me that it made him feel good to open each and every card /letter. He even brags to the other guys about it (they tease him but he says they are just jealous!). I've thought some more about what is bugging me about this trip.I mentioned this to my H when we had our last talk. I am afraid that he will be feeling like everything is so good with us and he is so happy now and he can't be tempted. Then he will decide to go along with any of the guys that want to go out to a club (the one where he met the B is really the best one around even though there are others). I am afraid that if they go to this particular place and the B is there,she will try to talk,have a drink and a dance with him and he won't "see the harm". I figure he'll be thinking that I'll never find out and he'll be feeling like he knows he can remain faithful and there would be nothing harmful in just talking to her or having a dance or a drink. When I told him this fear he told me that he really didn't know what else he could do or say to take away that fear other than promising that he would not go anywhere she might possibly be. I do know that is all he can do and it is up to me to rid my mind of this fear. I know I am sounding paranoid!! My H says I am good at making up things that "could" happen. Anyway,I am working on that and I may need some "hand holding" Tuesday the 14th around about 11:00 A.M.!! I am going to try and stay as busy as I can during the day and wear myself out so I can sleep at night !! The busier I am the less "thinking" I'll be doing !! Maybe that's the trick!! Thanks for the thoughts and the help! All prayers are greatly appreciated!!!! Pfroglady
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(they tease him but he says they are just jealous!). I've thought some more about what is bugging me about this trip.I mentioned this to my H when we had our last talk. I am afraid that he will be feeling like everything is so good with us and he is so happy now and he can't be tempted. Then he will decide to go along with any of the guys that want to go out to a club (the one where he met the B is really the best one around even though there are others). I am afraid that if they go to this particular place and the B is there,she will try to talk,have a drink and a dance with him and he won't "see the harm". I figure he'll be thinking that I'll never find out and he'll be feeling like he knows he can remain faithful and there would be nothing harmful in just talking to her or having a dance or a drink. When I told him this fear he told me that he really didn't know what else he could do or say to take away that fear other than promising that he would not go anywhere she might possibly be. I do know that is all he can do and it is up to me to rid my mind of this fear. I know I am sounding paranoid!! My H says I am good at making up things that "could" happen. Anyway,I am working on that and I may need some "hand holding" Tuesday the 14th around about 11:00 A.M.!! I am going to try and stay as busy as I can during the day and wear myself out so I can sleep at night ![[Wink]](images/icons/wink.gif){kind=icon}
!! Maybe that's the trick!! Thanks for the thoughts and the help! All prayers are greatly appreciated!!!! 
