You do have a way with words! I think I've been building that bridge for well over a year now. I did "feel" something was wrong way before H told me, so I was gathering up the planks and building that bridge before the actually bomb dropped. I think it's nearly complete now. MC today told me forgiveness is a process -- a little at a time. He sees great improvement in my "forgiving attitude" and expects me to continue to progress. I feel it, too.
And, as I told MC today, I've actually caught myself NOT thinking about H's actions of the past. That gives me such hope that someday down the line that bridge will finally be completed and I will reach out for H's hand and we will cross that bridge and never look back.