Hi GH, Wow you are doing great! And every time I read your thread with an update from seeing your C, I wish I had a C like yours. FrankD has a really good one too, I learn a lot from his C sessions also. I love my C, she is supportive and knows our sitch and my H well, but it is not concrete and action oriented as yours is. What great steps you are taking!

It is amazing to see how as soon as a sitch changes, even slightly, our tendency is to put the focus on something else outside of ourselves, instead of inside to do the work on us. I would much rather focus on the A, my H's behavior, etc. than focus on the central ingredient in my life - ME! Analyzing, fixing, blaming, being "right" - those are supported all around us in the world. Focusing on your own issues with intimacy and passion, your own expectations and how they sabotage your happiness - now those are golden insights and plans for action for you. And the only place where the true rewards will come. Awesome work, GH. We can see this for our spouses so easily, that they are seeking or focusing on something "outside" rather than looking inward when they have an A, yet we resist it for ourselves just as much in our own ways without a little prodding. Nice to recall how much the same we are, even if our "acting out" takes different forms.

As always I learn so much from reading your thread and your posts. I as so grateful for your presence and your insights. A beacon in the dark. A playmate in the daylight Thanks for being here and for your generosity in sharing yourself.

PositivelyListening
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When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller