I'm not real sure of your sitch or I guess what I mean is how you guys normally communicate. In my sitch before the problem surfaced I would usually ask those types of things when we were starting to be a little intimate. Back then it would have been a casual conversation for me. Now, I would probably wait until she was wanting to discuss problems in our R then bring it up with some of the other problems.

I guess you are the one that knows how to talk to him and also you are the one that knows what has worked and what doesn't. If coming out and asking has produced favorable results for you in the past then I think that would be fine. Everybody is different though, so approach it in a way that you think will work.

One other thing, I am by no means even close to being an expert on any of this. I just another struggling sole trying to find my way.

"Our life is what our thoughts make it." Marcus Aurelius