I know that had to take a lot for you to share with me. I think I already knew instinctively what had to be done. I guess up until now I've been wallowing so much in my own pain that I haven't given much consideration to H's. And, surprisingly, when I do consider his pain it takes the focus off mine and makes me feel better all the way around!!
I spoke to MC today about these very things. He said pretty much what you did -- H will get better when he sees that I'm getting better. H can't begin to forgive himself until I forgive him.
I'll just keep trying. Like I told MC today (and he fully agreed), I'm the stronger one in this relationship. I guess it's up to me to heal us both. Can't help but feel a little resentful, though. Ya know what I mean?
