GH Saga...it's all in my head?

[StevieRay13]

Now how do we get over this rejection and show our spouses that we really can be good lovers?

I may be naive, but instead of trying to guess why we aren't good lovers, can't we figure out what makes them think that? In other words, what do they think being a good lover is, what has to happen to make them feel we are good lovers?

I guess what I'm saying is that their needs for this are different than our perception is on how to meet this need. I just think we need to be able to relate to them in their own way to meet that need ie.. we aren't really bad lovers at all, we just aren't clicking the right switch.