Quote: Now how do we get over this rejection and show our spouses that we really can be good lovers?
I think PM has a lot to say about this...you read it right? I think we get past it by first accepting it ourselves. I KNOW I am a good technical lover, i.e. I have some "skills", lol, but it's the rest of the package, the "intimacy", the ability to open up and not fear rejection so much, that's missing in me. I still, to this day, have a TERRIBLE, paralyzing fear of rejection. I am forcing myself to get over that, but it's hard as hell.
To answer your question directly, I don't know if they every will understand that we can be that for them. I suppose it's possible that to THEM, we may never be, but I cannot concern myself with that possibility right now. I have too much work to do.
