GH, if I may ask, what inspired you to write that last post?
Ok, move over a bit so I can get on the soapbox with you. I do have to say that I agree with you. This is not a time to throw in the towel although at times that is exactly what you might feel like doing. This is a time for growing as a mature adult, learning about yourself, your feelings, your needs and desires as well as your spouses. Seeing yourself through your spouses eyes. It is a wake up call. Stop taking life for granted! Learn compassion, empathy and true unconditional love.
Quote: I never wanted to be in control over my own life. I always thought things were MUCH better when my W did that. SHE was the only thing that made me happy (and I actually told her so on many occasion). SHE made my life worth living (I actually told her life was not worth much without her). How pathetic is that? Maybe in the romantic world of being "in love" that my W seems to value so much, that's NOT pathetic, but in terms of the marriage she came to hate, it IS.
Unfortunately, I too relied on my happiness to come from my H. That is too much of a burden to put on someone. You have to be happy with yourself first and foremost before you can be happy with someone else.
