I to grow up in Europe(Germany) in my teens. As long as you could reach up to the bar they'd serve you. My family gave all of us kids small glass' of wine with dinner, only for special occasions. My parents where what they called social drinkers. My H family too, don't drink because of their religion. My occasional drink a few times a month have not been a problem. But I can see when one is raised being told that drinking is a "sin" that they can think you have a problem. My H will have a drink with me once a month. I chose not to drink because I know that with past experience and with alcoholism running in my family, it can become a problem.
Regarding W feeling sexy, independent, powerful woman with OM, this may be true. I know that when men notice me, ie. the store or being out and about, this make me have a spring in my step. I seem to say, I must be looking good for someone to approach me and ask me out. All I do is show them my ring and tell them "I'm sorry but I'm married". Being "lonely in bed" can make a person want to be "Noticed". Only thing is I always make it a point to let my H know when things like that happen. Makes H more aware that he needs to pay attention to me. When you and W go out and are having a great time together or just with the kids do you ever just take her hand, hold it, kiss it and them just let go of her hand? I know that after my H EA this is something that we both had to learn all over agian. Little sign of affection from me to show him I was ready to forgive and let everything go.
