Matilda, Sounds like things are really looking up!! The things the C said make sense and you sound like you know what the problem is and you are really doing good handling it. No one ever said what you are trying to do was going to be easy. I think your H knows it and understands it isn't easy. The lunch with him and the rest of the day sounds wonderful!! Maybe you could do that more often! I know I started planning little romantic dinners and indoor picnics. I also started every now and then having everything all set up to give H a nice massage when he comes home from work. Sometimes I just hand him a drink (after a big hug and kiss),sit him down,remove his shoes and socks and give him a foot massage (he REALLY loves those !!). Every so often he calls me form work and tells me not to cook dinner,he's taking me out on a date. Sometimes we go dancing. As you said it's the little things sometimes that do wonders! We had pretty much stopped doing anything for each other and that was one of the things that was making us both so terribly unhappy. He tells me how much he appreciates me and all the things I do (he never used to and that's why I stopped doing them). I just know everything is going to work out for you and your H. It already sounds like things are getting better and better!! Don't beat yourself up too much if you do have a "relapse" and soon you'll find that those "relapses" are few and far between!! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!!!!!
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!!). Every so often he calls me form work and tells me not to cook dinner,he's taking me out on a date. Sometimes we go dancing. As you said it's the little things sometimes that do wonders! We had pretty much stopped doing anything for each other and that was one of the things that was making us both so terribly unhappy. He tells me how much he appreciates me and all the things I do (he never used to and that's why I stopped doing them). I just know everything is going to work out for you and your H. It already sounds like things are getting better and better!! Don't beat yourself up too much if you do have a "relapse" and soon you'll find that those "relapses" are few and far between!! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!!!!!
