Lou - it seems like once a month is a lot for us these days. We've talked about once a week but he knows I don't really desire it. I tried to separate desire from want but after several months of this now I don't even want. I haven't brought up the once a week idea recently because I don't want that now. It's so empty to have sex without desire. In addition to drive we are also opposite in ability to talk about sex. I clam up. I think he does too but he's so busy pointing fingers at me he can't see that.
