By the way, Andy, in an earlier reply you said something about if I can just let go of the past we can "have the greatest relationship on earth." Never can happen, my friend. Not with infidelity as part of that relationship. It may be good again someday, but never, never like it could have been. That makes me so angry. He was stupid, stupid, stupid.
You have the opportunity to have the greatest R on earth. I believe that anything can be worked out - as long as you stay faithful and loyal to each other. Unfaithfulness is an impossible hurdle to overcome overcome. It leaves a lasting imprint on a person's very soul. No, no matter how good it gets it will never be as good as it could have been. How can I forgive that? He made that choice with no consideration for me at all. Now I live with the ramifications of his actions. I will never be the same. I will never feel the same. What a waste of a wonderful love story. We had it all -- and he blew it.
I know you won't make the same mistake. I know how hard it is for you to not have the R with you W that you want right now, but just keep at it. It can happen. In our situation it was starting to happen, but my H choose to betray me anyway. And now the all hope is gone of having that wonderful love affair again in our marriage. It just can't be -- remember, the phantom players are still there. For me they will always be there.
