Sometimes I think I just can't stand reading another story like our's. It just makes me sick that people treat each other this way. I'm hurt so much for you.
My H's A last about 8-9 months. As he said, they "weren't together all that often," probably averaged about twice a month over that time. I'm not sure, maybe less. He can't really remember all that well!! He said there were long stretches when he refused to get together with her. He never left home, said he never wanted a divorce, never wanted a future with the OW. His A ended because he "decided" it was over. He ended it and never looked back. The OW kept trying to contact him, and he had to have some contact on a limited basis because of work, but he told her to keep it strictly business. Apparently she tried to sneak in personal conversations during so-called business calls and he had to just go along with it for a while. We went on vacation last August, and while we were gone she called our home. Her number showed up on the caller I.D. I never questioned it because I'd heard the name before in the context of his work.
Anyway, about 3 months after he ended it with her he told me about it. The whole thing had been making him physically ill and he had to tell me. I wish he hadn't.
If you want to know more about my story (and Pfroglady's) look up my old thread in"infidelity" under "getting over it." It's been over six months, and I'm still trying to get over it. The last few days have not been good for me.
Please keep posting. I'd like to keep up with your progress. I'll keep you in my prayers.
