HEY! Heard about a book on ivillage.com that sounds interesting. It's called ADULTRY:THE FORGIVABLE SIN by Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil. She mentiones the 5 Big False Hoods About Infidelity. They are 1) A is about sex 2) A is about character 3) A is therapeutic 4) A is harmless 5) A has to end in divorce. She also says that ADULTRY IN SOME FORM OCCURS IN 8 OUT OF 10 MARRIAGES. I read some excerpts from the book and it might be worth checking out.
I agree Matilad - YOU ARE A WINNER!!!! I think that any woman who can forgive her adulterous H,comfront the XOW, and work hard to put the pieces back together like you have is a FIRST CLASS WINNER!!!! I really do believe that by forgiving a spouse for committing A makes them feel worse about what they did than kicking them out would! It definately shows that forgiving makes you a better person that the cheater. The hard part is living with your decision to forgive and learning to trust again. It can be done and I know if anyone can do it you can!! So YOU GO GIRL!! You are a class act and a real lady!! Bitches are a dime a dozen but class acts are rare!! I like to think of OW as bitches and wives that forgive cheating husbands are REAL WOMEN and REAL CLASS ACTS!! [Wink] Pfroglady (another REAL WOMAN [Big Grin] )