quote:Originally posted by matilda: I do want to make this work. It's all up to me. H has put his future in my hands, has asked me to forgive him, has assured me over and over again that it will never happen again. I just simply don't know how to "get past it," because it just simply isn't that simple.
Actually, it is that simple. That’s all there is left for you to do in order to have the greatest R on earth.
Simple – yes. Easy? Not on your life!
But you’ve done the first step.
quote:Originally posted by matilda: Anyway, enough about her. She's history.
She’s history. The next step is to put the memories behind you. It’s history. It looks to me like this is a much harder thing to do. The only “technique” that I can think of is to try to put the whole mess out of your mind. Of course, there are always little triggers to drag bad memories into your conciousness. The only thing you can do about that is to try to think of other things when the triggers are pulled. Like I said, I understand that this is not easy. Guess it’s just a matter of determination and time.
Another thought, Matilda. He’s put his future in your hands. He’s asked forgiveness, and there’s really nothing else he can do. But somewhere down the road, you’ve gotta get the “team spirit” going again. No advice on how to do that, but when you get this back, you’ll know you’ve arrived.
