I don't feel like your hijacking my thread. As you may have read, the sermon last Sunday was on "unforgiveness". I want to share with you what I learned from the sermon.
Steps of knowing that you've truly forgiven:
1. Stop bringing up the offense to the offender. 2. Stop bringing up the offense to others (except here of course). AND THE HARDEST OF ALL.... 3. Stop bringing the offense up to yourself.
When we get there, I think without question we truly have forgiven. The preacher went on to say that it won't be easy and it is a process, just like anything else in life that you have to learn. But we CAN do it as long as we set our mind to it.
I must say, you have been through a lot! God be with you and strengthen you. Remember, this is a journey and at some point, we'll make it. It may not be with our H, but we will make it and that's what is important. I've learned to take care of myself, not to fret about what H is and isn't doing. I'm happy because I "choose" to be happy. He's unhappy because he brought the unhappiness to himself and it's his battle, not mine.
Thanks for responding. I hope that we can continue our journey together.
