Suddenly.... you are so right! My husband and I have reconcilled after him having an affair. He has done everything to make things right. He has gone to concelling and he has even renewed our vows with me. He is more loving and kind than ever and yet I still make sarcastic remarks about the OW. I know I must stop in order to heal. After reading your post I realize how damaging my behavior is. I love my H and I know dragging up his affair everyday must be very painful for him. Thank you for letting me see myself better. I, like Matilda, am one of the lucky ones. Our husbands are doing all they can to help us get over this terrible experience. I am also fortunate (I now realize thanks to Matilda) because my husband has been very romantic and very attentive since he returned home. That was 18 months ago and I am still having difficulty with accepting the fact that he was unfaithful. We both learned something important in these past months... we love each other dearly and our family comes first. I have no trust issues with him what so ever, beacuse he has shown me he loves me and has seen how his behavior affected EVERYONE he loves and EVERYONE who loves him.
