Debra & Lily : I hope you don't mind me bargeing into your thread. I am very happy for both of you. You should be proud of how far you have come. I hope someday to be over here too. I have been separated for 7 months, Affair has been going on for about 9 months & H moved in with OW 4 months ago. She is a WAW leaving a H & S. My H broke up with OW & came home for a week in Dec. It didn't last - he was still too addicted to Ow & she wouldn't stay away. You are right they are like poison. My H has not really mentioned D. He is starting to become friendlier & wants to come over to "fix" things. He is being nicer to the kids & has stopped fighting with me. He is still with OW. THey have sstarted going to church together. I can see some positive changes happening, & wonder if you have any advice re his possilbe interest in returning again. How did your H"s initiate contact. I would like to know. Also I see Lily"s H's affair lasted 6 to 9 months - this seems to be average. Debra - how long did your H's affair last? I know my H is living with OW & doubt she would ever let go of him - she is a leech. How do these affairs end? Barb
